"To spank or not to spank" is not the question. The question, regardless of what discipline you choose, is simply this: "Does it accomplish what you want it to accomplish?"

 

  


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Don't laugh!

Q: Our 4-year-old daughter has a huge problem with being laughed at. She loves to be goofy and do funny things but as soon as someone, including one of us, laughs at her she becomes upset. She will say "Don't laugh!" or "I don't want you to laugh at

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Good Advice from 1951

I recently came across a 1951 article my late mother saved from the Charleston (SC) News and Courier. Titled “Agency Offers Pointers on How Parents Can Guide Their Child’s Emotional Development,” it is proof that parents and professionals of t

Written 30 days ago - View Column

14 yo doesn't brush his teeth

My 14 year old son does not brush his teeth, except during the week before he goes to the dentist. He doesn't have any cavities, his breath is fine, his check-ups at the dentist are at the "acceptable" level (not great, but passable), and his teeth

Answered 9 hours ago - View Answer

14 yo doesn't eat properly

My 14 year old son is extremely picky with food has very poor eating habits--he skips breakfasts, always wants to eat sweets and junk foods, does not eat any fruits, vegetables or any fresh foods at all. If left to his own devices, he would get very

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6 yo dawdles in the morning

My son is 6 years old and he dawdles. When I ask him to do his morning routine or clean his room he just sits around or does whatever else. I have read to take the child to school in his pj's but we homeschool so I want him to get ready simply becaus

Answered 33 hours ago - View Answer

Handling 4 yo aggression at friends' house

Hello! Thank you for your common sense advice, your books have been so helpful. Our almost 4 year old is already well on her way to rehabilitation (and we are all happier). I have a question about handling conflict between children outside the fam

Answered 33 hours ago - View Answer

sensitive 3 yo anxious around rowdy kids

HI John, Have you any advice for a child of 3 years, with a sensitive, cautious temperament, in dealing with more rowdy, active children? She has never been to childcare. However many kids out there pick up on the fact that she is gentle and meek, a

Answered 33 hours ago - View Answer

2 yo aggressive toward older brother

My two year old Alex hits his 4 1/2 year old brother Ben about a hundred times a day and sometimes bites. We put Alex in his room when he hits, but what do I do about Ben? Sometimes he laughs when he's being hit, most times he just stands there and

Answered 57 hours ago - View Answer

6 yo pouting

My six year old stepson has started pouting some lately, when we tell him no or reprimand him. We generally ignore it, or say something like "You can go to your room if you're going to pout." Is pouting something we should just ignore, or does it n

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Comment on video games

Please excuse me - I am making a statement - YOU ROCK John Rosemond - I just read your column on boys playing video games . Well I was the Director for our parishes perschool. I had a little boy - 4 years old who was sullen, crabby and anti- social

Answered 3 days ago - View Answer

13-yr old displays poor sportsmanship--part 2

Thank you for responding so quickly to a weekend question.... after further investigation, we have learned more details concerning the poor sportsmanship/pushing issue. I didn't witness the event, but my daughter did, and she confirmed my son's stor

Answered 4 days ago - View Answer

18 year old "asking" to be emancipated

We have an 18 year old son who is a Senior in High School. We have been having discipline problems with him on and off mostly since about 17 but have really gotten bad since he turned 18 in the Fall. He has a part time job that he has been doing go

Answered 4 days ago - View Answer

5 yo becomes suddenly defiant

We are so frustrated with our 5 year old daughter. We’ve had ups and downs before but she has generally been a sweet little girl. Now, in what seems like overnight, she has become extremely defiant, mouthy, devious, obnoxious and downright nasty.

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8 yr. old boy resentful of homeschooling

I have three sons. My oldest is eight. For the past two years I have homeschooled him. Prior to that he attended a Christian school for two years. While he attended school I had rarely any problems with him.(I understand that it may have something to

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13 yr. old boy displays poor sportsmanship

Good morning, We need a "guru's opinion" on a discipline plan for a our 12 (almost 13) year old son. In a fit of poor sportsmanship, he pushed a younger girl. We've already determined that he will apologize to the little girl's father and spend co

Answered 5 days ago - View Answer

16 mo toilet training

My wife and I have been trying to start toilet training our 16 month old toddler and have both read the Toilet Training without tantrums. Do you have any advice for how to approach getting our toddler to stay on the potty? We have been using a time

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Toddler takes control of bedtime

Hi! I was wondering if you might have any advice for me regarding my almost 2.5 yo son. We are having major issues with sleep!! We have always put him down in his crib awake, and he's done fine for the most part. He used to wake in the night mayb

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