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Does Animal Torture = Sociopath?

Q: My 18 year old son and a slightly younger friend recently found some mice and decided to dispose of them. They drowned one and set the other one on fire. When I confronted my son for torturing animals, his response was “They’re just mice.” I

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Too Old to Cuddle?

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say prayers. Sometimes, if I’m too busy, he just goes off t

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17 yo brat

Our 1st born was a joy to raise until she turned 13 (now 17) & we're growing weary to say the least! Pls tell me this is normal & she will come back as a delightful daughter & not a sourpuss, self centered, & disrespectful young adult that is perpet

Answered 52 hours ago - View Answer

8 yo tantrums follow up

In reply to your answer to the question "8 yo occasional wild tantrums", and after sharing your response with our son and his wife, the parents, I was informed by my son that our granddaughter is not "totally" unaware that the tantrum is happening. S

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Humility and Gratitude Needed for Arrogent Pre-teen

My 12 year old son has developed quite an arrogant attitude over the last few years. Not over achievements, but seems to just like one-upping people and using a tone to let them know they made a mistake, etc. I let him know when I hear it that he i

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Teasing That Won't Stop

My husband and I are battling a problem with our 4 year old daughter teasing her 6 year old brother endlessly. We have tried disciplining her and extensive time in her room, but it does not seem to be getting through to her. She will call him silly n

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9 yo throwing fits, part 2

What would be your plan for a 9 year old girl who has become increasingly aggressive when upset about something (hitting, throwing things, name calling). Sometimes it is frustration from math being difficult for her or hating school. Other times sh

Answered 3 days ago - View Answer

New Question

This isn't a question, but I had asked for your advice 2 weeks ago regarding my 2 year old and her toilet training, well once again your advice worked I kept using the bell and gate and after about a week of both she now hasn't had a single daytime a

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New Question

Hello, Would you please give me some insight in to this latest odd behavior coming from my four year old daughter. Lately, she will exhibit this odd assortment of behaviors in front of people (strangers as well as people she knows). She will be int

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New Question

I am the grandmother of 3.5 year old. Two months ago his family moved from a distant, remote town and now they live with us. He has been showing slight signs of separation anxiety, but he appears to be handling the move and the stress of the past

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4 year old tantrums--part 2

Back in November , I discussed with John my very difficult, obstinate four year old daughter. I realize your staff may answer this question, but I was ready to kick her out of the garden, but decided I would continue charts until after the holidays

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Three Tween/Teen Girls and One Authoritarian Dad

We have three girls ages 11, 14 and 16. How do I convince my husband that discipline can be carried out without yelling, cussing and calling his daughters names to try to get them to behave. He cannot leave his emotions and need for praise out of a

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Fidgity 8 y/o

My son is 8 years old. Ever since he has been a toddler, he has had a hard time sitting still especially if he gets excited about something. His mind is always racing and he is always trying to figure out how things work. He is very energetic and e

Answered 6 days ago - View Answer

New Question

Teenage boys taking too long of a shower........ How can I get my boys to take 5-7 minute showers without yelling at them every time they shower, demanding the water goes off in 1 minute, 2 minutes..... I want to respect their privacy as their

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Sleep Issues with Toddlers

My husband and I are having sleep issues with our kids! We have a 3.5 year old daughter and boy/girl twin 20 month olds. They all share a room because we only have two bedrooms. They are all also in toddler beds because the twins were climbing out of

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4 yo uses "baby talk" sometimes

Our 4 1/2 year old grandson (middle child with 6 yr old and 2 yr old sisters) frequently uses "baby talk". It doesn't seem to be an attention seeking device. When we ask him to repeat in his "big boy voice" he will do so. Should we ignore it, or i

Answered 7 days ago - View Answer

New Question

Our 8 year old son is allowed 30 minutes of tablet time per day to play Minecraft - after school work and the day's chores are done. He was caught with the device in his room (which is not allowed regardless and not the first infraction) and it was

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A brief explanation of who we are and what we do

ParentGuru is the only website of its kind on the World Wide Web. Conceived by family psychologist, best-selling author, and syndicated parenting columnist John Rosemond, ParentGuru is a comprehensive, multi-media parenting resource that offers a full range of services to its members—and the same features and services are also available to non-members. They include:

 

  • Answering Parent Questions: John and PG’s panel of experts, all Certified Leadership Parenting Coaches, will be answering questions submitted by both members and non-members. No legitimate question that fits our guidelines will be unanswered.

  • Column and Q/A Archive Search: Members and non-members will be able to search PG’s archives, which contain every column and magazine article written by John since 1985 as well as a catalog of thousands of Q/A John has accumulated over the years through his personal website at johnrosemond.com.

  • Webinars: John and other parenting and family professionals will be hosting regular webinars and the long-range plan is to offer a full array of online parenting courses, including courses on effective discipline, managing teens, toilet training, managing the “terrible” two-year-old and more.

  • Audio and Video: Audio downloads and video streams of John’s talks around the country will also be part of our menu of features.

  • Online Store: Last but not least, our store will contain items you can’t find anywhere else.


Now, a few words about our name: As you probably know, guru is an ancient Oriental term that refers to a calm, composed, authoritative individual who exudes commonsense wisdom. In this case, the ParentGuru is the parent we want to help you become—a parent who is calm, composed, and authoritative; a parent who parents primarily from the heart, intuitively and commonsensically; a parent who brings out the best in his or her children. We intend to liberate parents from the failed psychological parenting paradigm that came out of the mental health community in the late 1960s and has had American parenting in a stranglehold ever since; a paradigm that has created more problems for parents and children than mental health professionals even know how to solve (which is why most of them only diagnose and medicate).

We hope you’ll join us on this exciting quest to put parenting back on the right track. You can be a ParentGuru too!