Questions
Kindergarten Homework Hassles
Posted on 3/7/2019
I have a young kindergartner (won't turn six until this summer), although he is doing good enough in kinder, he is very easily distracted - bright light distraction. During school and homework at...
Read MoreIn Control without Controlling
Posted on 3/5/2019
We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7 are allowed 20 min a day once they have completed all their chores. Markedly less than many children are allowed (as my...
Read MoreLowering the Boom
Posted on 3/1/2019
I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...
Read MoreThe Terrible 12's
Posted on 2/7/2019
A few months have passed. This school year seems to have been a big step for my now 12 year old. We have been struggling most of the school year and just got his grades for the second quarter. The...
Read More8 y/o Boy Distracted Easily At School
Posted on 1/30/2019
We have an 8yo boy. His teacher let us know he “often gets distracted in the middle of a task, needs multiple reminders to turn in work, write down his homework, and to focus on the task at...
Read MoreWhere's That Wonderful Daughter?
Posted on 12/12/2018
My 8-year-old daughter has been a wonderful child until about a month ago. She’s lying a lot, not doing what we ask her to do, and she talks back. I have asked her what is wrong, and she tells me...
Read MorePeers Will Make or Break 15 YO Girl
Posted on 10/24/2018
15 year old daughter confessed to me last night that she went to the park before school and had sex with a boy a few weeks ago. She has had her period, so she doesn't believe she is pregnant. She...
Read MoreAh, the promises of a 13 year old...
Posted on 10/15/2018
What is your opinion on a 13 year old having an Instagram account? My son has promised he will keep his account private, share his password with me and only follow people he knows personally if I...
Read MoreTeen Proofing with Cell Phones
Posted on 9/12/2018
I am currently reading John's book Teen Proofing. In chapter 3 he discusses the six C-words, curfew, cash, car, cohorts, conflict, and consequences. He gives detailed explanations of how he and...
Read Morephone use for 23 yo
Posted on 9/10/2018
HI, My husband and I have been married 2 years. I have 2 boys, 15 and 17, who live with us half the time. He has 2 boys, 23 and 20, who are rarely at our house because they are in college. All 4...
Read More13 year old abusing computer privileges
Posted on 8/28/2018
I'm having a technology issue with my almost 13 year old. We have placed guidelines and restrictions on her computer use but she continues to abuse her privileges. She went all summer with no...
Read MoreScreen time is all up to you!
Posted on 8/13/2018
I am at my wits end with screen time and Fort Night. I try and stay by a limited number of minutes and it’s never enough and always ends up in a huge battle . I give him an hour he takes five...
Read MoreFind aFriend for college student
Posted on 8/9/2018
What is your opinion about phone apps like "Find My Friends" that allows parents to know their children's location? I had never heard of this but when my oldest left to college, she introduced me...
Read MoreHusband files for divorce after wife takes a stand with teens.
Posted on 6/1/2018
Dear John Rosemond, I wrote in a while ago on putting the marriage first. I was never able to get my husband on board which indeed caused a great deal of strife in our family, especially with...
Read MoreAppropriate Response to Inappropriate Video Games?
Posted on 5/6/2018
Our 8-year-old son is seeing kids play graphic video games on portable gaming units. The most recent title was “Call of Duty,” with which we are familiar. We talked about the violence and realism...
Read MoreLet Son Choose His Own Extracurricular Activities
Posted on 5/1/2018
My son is a great student and a talented athlete. He is in 8th grade and during middle school I made him play soccer, take band, run track and just this past year he decided (on his own!!) to try...
Read MoreTeacher took the Book of Chrome----off the hook at home??
Posted on 4/28/2018
My 14 year old son Is about to finish the eighth grade. His school issues each student a chromebook for classroom use. Today, I received an email saying that my son had been caught watching videos...
Read MoreThe Better Half
Posted on 4/19/2018
I have 2 step-daughters, ages 11 and 8, who spend half of their time with us and half with their mom. We don’t allow them to use any form of social media and have explained to them the dangers....
Read MoreTwo out of Three
Posted on 3/5/2018
My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...
Read More11 yro having trouble following directions
Posted on 2/16/2018
The private school my children attend requires the use of tablets instead of books. My son has had trouble using it properly. It was stripped of all access to games and online media; however, he...
Read MoreHow much screen time?
Posted on 2/1/2018
My husband and I disagree on how much video time the children can have. I don't think its appropriate on school nights, even if they get their chores/homework done. My husband thinks it has been a...
Read MoreDisrespect from a 13 y/o boy
Posted on 12/29/2017
My 13 yr old son is disrespectful to his Dad! My son knows how to push his buttons to the point my husband says hurtful words like "you're a bad human" and loses control and starts to yell. I do...
Read More...but she's an "A" student...
Posted on 12/14/2017
How should I punish a straight “A” student who accessed Netflix without parent permission. She has to have some access to google classroom for high school so I can’t take away her electronics...
Read MoreTeen Misuses Cell Phone Privileges
Posted on 12/14/2017
I recently found a nude picture of a boy on my 15 year old daughter's phone and one of her chest. I assume they are exchanging pictures. I am horrified and am thinking of the best consequence to...
Read MoreToo many chances leads to deceit.
Posted on 12/13/2017
My 15 year old asked if she could have Netflix. We told her we’d like to see her show us that she can manage her time better before we say yes. Gave her some thoughts on what we would like to...
Read MoreTeens and the Telephone
Posted on 11/15/2017
I have noticed that parents writing in about problems with kids and phones are repeatedly told to take the device away and the child can have it when they can purchase their own device. I don't...
Read MoreOnline School is a Privilege Not a Right
Posted on 11/3/2017
We have homeschooled our 3 kids for all of their school years. Last year we enrolled our son (now 16.5) in online public schooling because he refused to be cooperative with school work. Online...
Read MoreThe Phone is Not the Problem
Posted on 10/4/2017
So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...
Read MoreEnough Talk?
Posted on 9/6/2017
Hello and Thank You for your help and guidance. We last asked a question in April. Here we are in September, back again and most appreciative. Our 7 year old was exposed to pornographic video on...
Read MoreScreens are Everywhere!
Posted on 9/6/2017
I have a soon to be 13 year old grandson I have been raising since he was an infant. He was diagnosed ADD in first grade but delayed medication until 4th grade. The medication has really helped....
Read More16 Year Old Daughter's Continued Rebellion
Posted on 8/6/2017
I wrote a few months ago about my daughter who I caught drinking. It turns out that it wasn't a blip on the radar with her. Given her behavior of late (defensive, sneaky), I tracked her location...
Read MoreShould Mom Monitor College Child's Tech Use?
Posted on 6/27/2017
I have a 19.5 year-old daughter in college and living at home. She is responsible about everything except her computer and cell phone use. She uses social media and texting more than is good for...
Read MoreBaby Loves Music!
Posted on 6/22/2017
I have a 14 month old who loves to listen to music. During the day, he will use sign language to tell me he wants to listen to music and I will turn Pandora on the TV. There is no music video but...
Read MoreTeenagers, Technology and Life
Posted on 6/13/2017
With the deluge of technology in children's lives today, once the children reach their teens, including late teens, what would you consider to be fair usage rules in the home for both computers...
Read MoreSon Obsessed with Pokemon
Posted on 5/17/2017
Hello! Our son is obsessed! Obsessed with one thing at a time to the point of not completing school work to do it. Right now it's Pokemon. He has a screen time limit - one 30 min show after...
Read MoreHigh Schoolers & the Internet
Posted on 5/10/2017
Please help me navigate the internet access issue for highschoolers. You say for them to do their homework in their own rooms (so they know they are responsible) but don't have TVs and internet...
Read More9 yo boy needs boom lowered
Posted on 4/13/2017
My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...
Read More6 year old's disturbing comments
Posted on 3/31/2017
Our fairly happy 6 year (almost) 7 year old has said a few disturbing things recently. About a week ago out of the blue he told me that he has thoughts of hurting/killing someone with a knife. ...
Read MoreDisobedience or Addiction?
Posted on 3/1/2017
Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...
Read More12 yo Social Life Taking Over Grades
Posted on 2/13/2017
My 12 yo daughter has gone from straight A's in elementary school to C's & D's in middle school. It's not because she can't do the work, she chooses not to. Her friends and social life seem to be...
Read MoreAppropriate Age for Cell Phone
Posted on 2/12/2017
You do not recommend teens have cell phones At what point, do you think it is ok for a person to have one? When they can work and pay for it themselves?
Read MoreCell phone give and take
Posted on 1/14/2017
In the chapter in Teen Proofing about consequences, John does not mention electronics or cell phones. I know he does not feel that kids should have them in the first place, but for those of us...
Read More11 yo Sneakiness
Posted on 1/2/2017
My oldest daughter has developed some very sneaky behavior. The minute my back is turned or I'm out of the house for a few minutes she's pulling something. Mostly its been with electronics, taking...
Read More2-year-old whining for a playmate
Posted on 10/14/2016
I have a wonderful just turned two year old son. He loves to play, but he doesn't love to play by himself. I also have a 5 month old, and work part time from home, so it's important that he learn...
Read MoreThe cell phone has to go.
Posted on 10/2/2016
How much monitoring do you recommend on a 16 year old's phone? Sometimes, she seems to go to great lengths to hide things from us. At one point, she was having contact with a drug dealer (high...
Read MoreLaptop Use in Elementary School
Posted on 9/14/2016
Good Morning. My daughter's school wants to introduce a new IT vision starting from next year with the year 4 class. It would involve the parents and the school together purchasing laptops for...
Read More2 yo Demanding Attention
Posted on 9/13/2016
HI there, I asked a question about my rather naughty toddler about a week ago and you have asked me where do I want to start - so I decided to write back. I followed your advice and started on...
Read MoreMonitoring Cell Phone Texts with Apps
Posted on 6/4/2016
Along with the majority, if not all of his friends, our middle school aged son has a cellular phone. It seems that most parents monitor their child's text message activity. Applications are...
Read MoreMonitoring 17-Year-Old's Cell Phone Texts
Posted on 4/16/2016
My son will be 17 in July. Do you think it is inappropriate for me to read his text messages without his knowledge? He has been experimenting sexually with girls, touching and heavy kissing...
Read More13 yo Boredom
Posted on 4/2/2016
We have a very bored 13 year old on our hands. It is now the school holidays and he is bored, bored,bored. It is not the boredom itself that we are worried about. It is the fact that he shows no...
Read MoreShowing results 51-100 on page 2 of 6.